Using the Four Letter Word at Home: A discussion on drugs
No parent has a burning desire to talk about drugs with their kids. More often than not the “drug” word is avoided at all costs in the home. Avoiding this talk can be a really bad idea. It’s important that you open the lines of communication with your child so that they feel comfortable asking you questions and talking to you about whatever is on their mind. If you can set the expectations before your child’s teenage years, that would be ideal. However, if your child is already a teenager, there is no time like the present to tackle the drug topic.
The First Step
Set the expectation from the beginning. Talk to your child about how you feel about drugs. Educate them on the negative consequences they could face. The mental, physical, legal, and disciplinary consequences should all be included in this discussion. Teens who are aware of their parent’s disapproval of drug use are less likely to use. Also, set the example. You should practice the kind of behavior you want your children to model. You may think your child isn’t watching, but studies suggest otherwise.
Tone it up or tone it down
There is a difference in being firm and “laying down the law”. The wrong tone can miscommunicate the message and/or close off communication lines with your child. If they fear you to a high-extent, they will not want to come to you in a time of crisis, because they fear judgment. You can convey seriousness and strictness without being threatening. Don’t be too hard.
Also, don’t be too soft. Everyone wants to be the cool parent. Remember cool parents can still hold their children accountable. They may call you the fun-sucker now, but they’ll thank you later. Make your expectations and present the facts about drugs clearly. This should not be a topic free for interpretation. Give the facts and set the expectations. Plain and simple.
Do it now so you can enjoy later
Don’t assume your child is smart enough to say no to drugs. Peer pressure and the glamorization of substance use is running rampant. Talking to your kid doesn’t mean you doubt their decision-making skills or distrust them. Talking to your kid shows that you care for and support them. This talk could be the difference in them saying yes to drugs down the road. Do your part. Start talking now.
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